For years, we’ve heard the mantra, “We can have it all!” But we can’t have it all. It’s a physical impossibility. Every choice we make cuts us off from 1,000’s of other choices we could have made.
We can’t have it all, but we can have what’s really important to us. In order to have what’s really important, sometimes you may have to give up a few things.
Commitments
Look at your calendar for on-going appointments. Do you have recurring board meetings, school events, after-school events, classes, etc? Look at each of these commitments you’ve made and ask, “How important is this commitment? Is it still serving me and the life I want to have?”
What commitments can you give up?
Anger and hurt
Are you holding onto emotions that no longer serve you? These emotions may be legitimate and may have helped you survive, but at some point, they can hinder your growth.
What anger or hurt can you give up so that you have more energy to give to what’s important to you now?
Being Right
I thought I was wrong once, but it turned out that I was wrong. I was right all along. Needing to be right can keep us from trying new things or stopping old things that no longer fit who we are now.
Where is wanting to be right keeping you from being happy?
Low value activities
Some activities make very little positive impact on what’s most important to us.
What activities can you do less of without really impacting the quality of your life?
Give Up
Give up a few commitments, negative emotions, attachments to being right, and low value activities. These will give you more time and energy for the things that are really important to you.
Give yourself permission to do less, because you’ve got more important things to do than attending meetings, staying angry, and being right.
