When I moved to a new city, I expected to make new best friends and that I’d be very busy keeping up with a busy social calendar. Much to my surprise, I didn’t meet anyone, and I had nothing on my social calendar.
That was probably because I rarely left my house. I worked from home, so I didn’t have the opportunity to meet people at the office. When I left the house, it was to run errands, and surprisingly, no one was tackling me at the grocery store saying, “I’ve been waiting for you! Can we hang out?”
So, I joined a couple Toastmasters Clubs- meetings where people gathered to practice public speaking. Shortly after, I was voted in as the president of one club and the Vice President of Public Relations of another. Plus, my husband and I joined the local Audubon group, and we’d traipse through the woods with a group of people looking for birds.
A year after we moved, the army shipped my husband off for an entire month, and he asked me, “Who can you call if you need anything?” And I was pleased to rattle off a list of names of people I now considered friends and who could help me out if I needed help.
The world didn’t step in and deliver my expectations on a silver platter. Instead, I had to give of myself to create what I wanted.
The same holds true in all areas of our lives.
Want a happy marriage? Then do those things that create a happy marriage: surprise your spouse with small but thoughtful gifts, give physical affection, listen to their problems, support their hobbies, ask their advice.
It’s important to know what you want and then give of your self, your time, and your money to make it happen. And if you give yourself a few moments to give thanks for what you have and where you’ve come from, creating the life you expect will feel even more rewarding.