When we focus on what we’re getting, we become very aware of what we don’t have. “What don’t I have?” is a crappy question, and when you ask a crappy question, you’ll get a crappy answer.
What don’t I have?
I don’t have the latest fashion.
I don’t have the right pair of shoes to go with that outfit.
I don’t have a big enough house.
I don’t have a new enough car.
I don’t have enough time, energy, or money.
I don’t have someone to hang out with this weekend.
I don’t have the right personality to be happy, successful, etc.
I don’t have enough/the right people’s respect and love.
I don’t have a great body.
We all have things we don’t have and wish we did, but focusing on our lack creates feelings of frustration, depression, and envy.
What do I have?
When we focus on what we have, suddenly, we become aware of the abundance in our lives.
I have two arms, legs, eyes, and ears that all work.
I have a sharp mind and a big heart.
I have a strong, handsome, and deeply loving husband.
I have a great family and lovely friends.
I have a roof over my head, a bed to sleep on, and food in my refrigerator.
I have a closet full of clothes.
What can I do with what I have?
Asking this question puts me in problem solving mode and reminds me that I can do something! I have time, money, talent to give to what I love and make myself and the world better.
I can use the internet which puts me in contact with millions/billions of people and gazillions pieces of information.
I can use computer programs to create amazing projects.
I can use my past experience to offer advice, experience, and support to someone who needs it.
I can find time on Thursday evening, if I skip that T.V. show, to learn that new skill I’ve been wanting to learn.
I have too many clothes that I don’t wear, and I can give them to someone else.
Give, because it changes the question to one that reminds you of what you have and what you can do with what you have.
Doesn’t that sound like a better place to be than a pity party about what you don’t have and why you can’t do anything?